Having a good relationship with your parents.

Having a good relationship with your parents.

If you are feeling like you are lonely and you feel your parents hate you. We do always want to be understood by our parents, but they seem not to understand us. We love how we see parents in movies understand their children and we desire it 🤨?

I will give us just one tip on how we can have good relationship with our parent, but you have to figure it out yourself below.

We all desire to be listened to by our parents  right? But we all need to Know one thing,If we all need to be listened to.

We need to ask ourselves a question.Yes I Know it's an obvious questions. The question is

"Do we listen to others?"

You Know we watch so many interesting movies on how the relationship between a parent and their children went so wrong because of they didn't listen to the children.Yes it's very right as a parent, for us to understand our children. And a perfect parent is one that always satisfy his/her kids emotionally, physically, spiritually, academically  and even financially.

Everyone wants that kind of parents, even the parents, but we forget about a perfect child, that every parent always pray for.

You know as a science student that I was, one way in solving a question correctly, is ensuring all parameters align with each other, or to a standard. If we are solving with centimeters, we use centimeters in all our solution. If we are solving with metres and we use centimeters in any part of the solution, no matter how correct our figure calculation is, we will definitely miss the answer, unless otherwise. Now if we are always wanting a perfect parent, and we remove a the responsibility of a perfect child from the solution. No matter how we solve it, we will ALWAYS get a WRONG answer. We as child if we need to be understood by our parents, we should also try to understand our parents. If we need our parent to hear us out, we also need to hear them out. If we need our parents to love us, we should always love them back.

I shared my experience in a social gathering some months ago about this same topic, I will share the same experience here.

When I entered JSS , my mum always wanted me to run errands for her and do some house chores (which is normal), but I always love to draw and not do house chores (which is normal for a Nigerian teenager, to always want to do what he or she loves, and not wanting to do house chores). But I don't know what made me do what I did, but I believe it was God and I thank Him for that. I understood my mum, to the extent that before she gets angry I've already solved the problem she wants to get angry about. Today my mum loves me very well and I do love her very well.

I used the behavior of a perfect child to get my perfect mum, which is always satisfy her emotionally, physically, spiritually, even if my power can carry me financially, and academically. 

No matter how we think we need attention, they also need attention. They are not gods, they are not be perfect this is because they are HUMAN they also desire to be heard, they also deserve to be loved, they also need to be understood. Let us children correct our equation about life, love our parents and not just push them away because of some motivational speaker who never understood his/ her parents. They love us, and they are also struggling to understand us, let's make it EASY for them by understanding them first, loving them first, becoming the perfect child first.

I know you it might be very difficult at the beginning, but I tell you it pays.

Thanks for reading 🎩.